1. GUIDELINES FOR HELPING THOSE AT RISK

Have you felt completely helpless trying to convince someone to leave her abuser? Here are the five most effective things you can say to her. Please note that it works because you use no force. She is living in a very coercive environment and when you tell her how you feel and then leave the decision up to her she will feel supported and respected. That will get her attention. Don’t try to control her decision just stay in “I” statements and keep doing it. Also go to www.klamathcrisiscenter.org for more helpful information.

If you want to know more call Renee Kapp at (541) 433-2044

FIVE THINGS TO SAY TO A VICTIM WHO IS NOT READY TO TAKE ACTION

 

1)     I am afraid for your safety

2)    I am afraid for the safety of your children

3)    It will only get worse

4)    I am here for you when you are ready to leave

5)    You don’t deserve to be abused

 

Remember the victim is in fight or flight mode and has survived by all the techniques he/she could muster i.e. denial, manipulation; alcohol, drugs, self medication, obsessive behaviors, sickness, sleeping or hyperactivity, lying, cutting herself, withdrawing from others, rationalizing, avoiding intimacy, not eating/eating junk food only, detaching/shut down, taking care of other’s needs/feelings, bulimia, stuff or minimize own feelings, sleeping pills and etc.


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